Dating Theory

It's time for some little advice. I dunno if you are believer of myths or theories, but if you are planning to start dating, and want some crazy theory about it, here is something from yours truly. I cannot say it's super duper tried and tested but who knows. It might work for you, or in other case, it may not. Hehe.

I really sometimes look at relationship as just an emotional cage, that sad couples peek from behind the bars of, looking at all as happy single people wondering what fear of being alone made them say "I do". I love Romance as compared to my love with Relationships. Romance gives joy and happiness. Relationships gives pain and sorrow.

Of course, it's my paradigm. People see and view things differently. But that is mine. But don't get me wrong. I'm not anti-relationship. I'm just stating a piece that I have enjoyed Romance so much as I have enjoyed Relationships...

5 dates happens to be the perfect amount of time to achieve maximum fun with no pain, no expectation equals no disappointment. It's just fun and no rules. And as they say, after the 5 dates, it's where all the new chapter starts. It's either the start of a new happiness or a start of a new worse nightmare. Hehe.

I don't wanna claim that I have dated a lot (hypocrite!!!) that's why I'll just say I have dated a few. And most of those (few) dates were fun. Why? Because there's no strings attached. It was a care-free, hassle-free (and all the free in the world) without thinking what would be the next. You just enjoy the time and the person you are with.

But yes, there were dates that sucked. Guys that were boring, air-headed, sexually agressive, illogical, overly romantic. Yes, those guys sucks!!! Okay, no naming of names. So, if you really want to enjoy someone's company and that's it, only that, or if you want to find the next partner, you may wanna try this crazy idea of the "5 Dates Theory".

1st Date

First date is the new beginning. It's where all the anticipations happens. It's where the Great Introduction starts. The first impressions that may or may not last. It's where the fake smile and laughter shows up, the movements and gestures are refined, it's where you are fully conscious about yourself and everything that happens between the two of you.

You should really be good on your first date. It's the make or break part of everything...

2nd Date

Second Date should be theatrical or cultural. You can take your date in a museum, or art gallery, or in a modern scale, go watch a movie, a concert, a stage play. This date is something that can be tagged as "planned date". Unlike the first date, it's not so grand as it is the typical set-up. This is where the exchange of background information happens.

And of course, the first kiss can start to happen on the 2nd date. I guess it's important to know if your date is a good kisser. Right?!!

3rd Date

Third Date should be an adventure. Something out of the norm. Go for a road trip. Bunjee Jumping. Jet Skiing. River Rafting. Scuba Diving. Paintball Shooting. Race Car. Or Karaoke can be considered an adventure especially when you're date is afraid to belt some song in public. Bring your date somewhere that will make you discover the other side of his/her personality.

This is also the part where you can give a glimpse of the other side of you...

4th Date

Fourth date should be the time where you invite him/her in your place (if you have your own). This time, cook something where you can brag about and have a simple yet romantic dinner at your dining table. It's going to be comfortable as it will be just the two of you, no disturbance from other people, and it will bring out the full personality of your date.

This is the best time to show your sanctuary to your date, what you have in your place, what you keep, photo albums, the music you listen to, the books you read, etc...

5th Date

Fifth Date, as the last date for the "5 Date Theory" should be the time you enjoy sex. Yes. I said SEX!!! It's where you feel the passion in him/her towards you and feel his/her naked glory. This is where you get to know if he/she is good in bed, or if he/she sucks. At this point, you are already very comfortable with each other.

Enjoying the last of all dates, after going to places, doing stuff, eating food, knowing everything, the kissing and sex, this is where you decide whether you would like to keep your date and go to the next level, or stop from there, leave, forget and move on...

The "5 Date Theory" is designed to fully enjoy the art of dating. A perfect time to get to know more of your date towards some possibilities in the future. Dating for me is the stage of getting to know someone. Not a phase where you need to go through so you can jump in to bed and have sex, or jump in to a relationship so quickly.

That's why there are a lot of broken hearts today. They have been captured by their fantasies and never thought of the things that can happen when you let your emotions decide in getting in to relationships. Dating is fun. It should be. Although disappointments, frustration, shocking revelations, crazy things should be expected. Not all dates are good. As I have said, there are dates that sucks!!!

So if you plan to have some date, you may try this crazy theory. Who knows, it might work. If it does'nt, just don't say you read it here in my blog. Hehe.