On Bride Wars and Friendship

"Sometimes in life,

there are really bonds formed that can never be broken.
Sometimes you really can find that one person
who will stand by you no matter what.
Maybe you'll find it in a spouse
and celebrate it with your dream wedding...

But there is also the chance
that the one person you can count on for a lifetime,
one person who knows you,
sometimes better than you know yourself,
is the same person who's been standing beside you all along..."

- an excerpt from the movie Bride Wars

I enjoyed the DVD movie Bride Wars when I watched it last week. It was an entertaining film and gives you some perspectives about wedding and friendship. It did give me one. Not about weddings, but about friendship. A sad one. It gave me a realization that during the 1st quarter of this year, I just lost two very good friends, whom I shared my life with, whom I considered as best friends, shared my life stories, shared my secrets and who were there during tough times.

The realization made me really hurt. I was really in pain. I cried. I've been struggling with it for how many months already but I kept it to myself. I never talked about it with anyone. The pain is just too much to be discussed. I know I will just gonna cry on it. It is a sad reality. It's like a funeral. It's like someone died. Someone was taken, or someone was lost forever. That those people whom you have trusted so much, loved so much, cared so much are no longer there.

Things got in the way. Two different reasons from two different very good friends. One is work related issue and one is financial issue. It's not for me to put in the details of what has happened. It's with my utmost respect for them that I shall leave the issues behind, let go, move on and accept the sad reality.

I guess I asked it once or twice why the two of them, and why at the same quarter. I was hoping at least one at a time, so there would still be one left for me. Or not even. But reality sometimes bites you so well you can't do anything but cry. Friends, like partners, either stays or leaves. But most of the time, people leave and definitely for a reason. You may not get it in the beginning, react on it, get emotional, but I'm sure in the end, you'll know why.

I am hoping that someday I can be like Kate Hudson, who has Anne Hathaway in her life in the movie. That even things get in the way, their friendship will keep them together. That they will not doubt each other, and that they will still choose to trust each other, even if things get ugly. But that's life.

Just a piece of thought on Bride Wars and Friendship...