Is It Important?

There is just another question that my brain pulled out from the movie "He's not that just in to you": Is SEX really that important in a relationship? There are so many opinions on this one, and that's for sure, but I'll throw my 2 cents in because I think I've got enough years and experience to give some insight on this one.

I would say yes, sex and sexual issue are very important. Crucial even. It is an important part of a relationship. But if it is or becomes the most important aspect, then there is no ''real'' relationship at all to begin with. If sex was unimportant, then I guess cheating would also be considered unimportant.

Sex can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. It's pretty darn important for procreation - obvious exceptions being infertility or disability of course. It helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress and gives so much comfort. Sex also differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.

After sex, both partners' brains release chemicals (talking about science) that makes them feel happy and most importantly, connected and in love. That's all we want, right! And we all know that this effect is far stronger for women. Right girls? And I'm so sure about this after hearing and seeing this from my girl friends.

Regular sex bonds a couple together. Needless to say this is far from the only thing bonding a couple. Any physical affection, cuddling, kisses, hugs, holding hands can have this effect as well as the connection from the shared experiences, conversations, similar interests etc. Sex will not always make or break a relationship, but a terrible sex life (absent, violent, whatever) or a cheating partner can break a relationship. Just like what happened to Ben and Janine in the movie.

Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people could just never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime. Gets?

Sex is also more important to some people than others, most especially to some PLUs. Some of them prefer frequent sex, some are once a week or even less often (is that me? hehe). These differences can cause problems. Well, the only key here is "compromise". Sometimes you will be having sex that you aren't fully in the mood for, sometimes you will want and go without, as long as one of you isn't always giving way to the needs of the other, you can work it out.

So, to conclude this entry, sex isn't all there is to a great relationship but, it is an important part...