Pointers on LTR

Upon closer observation of TL, I notice that most PLUs think that our relationship are different than those of our heterosexual counterparts; thus, if a relationship becomes beleaguered with difficulties, we tend to easily call it quits and move on. I myself admits that I am like that sometimes.

Ang isang relasyon, in order for it to last, must begin with the premise that this is built to last NOT TEMPORARY. A commitment therefore has to be made. Isang commitment to be your partner's strength when he is weak and vice versa, to accept that fact that no matter how close you become, you two are still two different individuals.

Hindi ako experto sa pag-ibig. Alam nang mga kaibigan ko yan. But what I do share are things na natutunan ko from my past relationships and on the current one. First, it is not a matter of compatibility rooted on similar traits, yung mga parehong gusto niyo o ayaw niyo, but rather about complementarity. Secondly, Love is not enough. A relationship must be renewed everyday and must be built upon something stronger than shared attraction or passion. Work in progress siya.

Everyday poses a new challenge. How far can you go, not how far are you willing to go. A will that is stronger than willingness. Gets? Third, imbes na hanapin mo yung "Perfect Partner" in him, be one! Don't always find fault in your partner, but instead, be the first to admit your own faults. There is no space for pride in a relationship. And believe me, yan ang greatest enemy ni TL. Ma-pride kasi ako eh. Hehe.

Fourth, hindi lang kayong dalawa ang tao sa mundo. You will have to learn to see your place in your partner's world and see him in yours. And much much more. Wag niyong paliliitin ang mundo niyo. Get to know the family, relatives, and friends of each other. Dahil pag nagkahiwalay kayo, you will then realize how small your world is kapag ginawa niyong exclusive to each of you ang relasyon niyo.

So, we really need to realize na ang isang relasyon ay isang complicated matter, which is not for the weak of hearts. In its core is the question: "Is having a relationship really what you want?". If yes, go ahead, there are people like you. If no, go ahead and have the world as your oyster. But never mislead anyone to believe that you are looking for one. Because you are hindering their chance to find their own happiness. Everyone is entitled for one, right?

Just sharing some pointers on how to have a long-term relationship. Have a blessed year everyone!!!